Acting Out and Wisdom About Parenting

Matthias is starting to act out more, but he's learning quickly that mom isn't giving in and will NOT tolerate bad behavior. We do a lot of talks with discipline if needed. Direct defiance is the only action that requires a spanking (according to Dr. James Dobson). I personally believe that a corporal punishment should be the last resort, but I believe it is necessary. Too much will not make it effective. Children will determine "why try I'm just going to get in trouble".


Parenting is not all about behavior control. It's about giving them training them and teaching them in a way that what they believe is deeply rooted in them so that their behavior reflects their values. If you teach your children core values they will respect them.

I want my children to be respectful and loving. We must model for them who we expect them to be. If we want 2-faced Christians in the church, then we live a double life. If we want to raise little gossips, we gossip so our children will learn how.

Activities In and Around Colorado Springs for Fun

CHURCH

Focus on the Family
CHURCH
Cheyenne Mountain Zoo
CHURCH
Garden of the gods
CHURCH
Dinosaur Museum in Woodland Park
CHURCH
Country Drive in the Mountains to look for Deer, Elk, and other Wild Life
CHURCH
Tour a health food store to talk about eating healthy
CHURCH
Drive around the military bases and look at the Jets, Planes, and Tanks on display
CHURCH
Go to the park
CHURCH
Go to the gym
CHURCH
Go to the "play areas" at the mall
CHURCH

Hmmm.... I mention church alot! Why? Because in the church is where children NEED to be. We rarely miss church. My children have grown to love it so much. It helps them to see "their friends" (which is just about everyone in the church). Going to church consistantly gives your children a sense of belonging and a love for church. It will become a habit for them to go to church regularly.

If you don't have a church to call home and you live in the Colorado Springs area, please contact me about our wonderful church. They have been the ones who help me make it through the tough times. As soon as I walk in the door, my children run go see their friends and I know without a doubt my children are safe.

Two Companies every person should know about!!!

There are 2 companies that I believe every person should use:








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Visit my website www.prepaidlegal.com/hub/bridgettespurlock for more information or to sign up!

Homemaker's Planner (pdf file) Giveaway (has a homeschool section)

I have created this planner for myself and have posted it on my etsy shop. It is all "fill in the blank" so that you can use it when YOU need it!  I hate buying planners and wasting half of it because I bought it too late. So I got creative with my computer!

I want to give away a couple copies of it for free to other homemakers. It has everything I need in it that I need. However, I'm not everyone....at least that's what I was told growing up LOL.

So I would like feedback from a couple of people of what to add/take away, etc. This is a Christian based theme with Titus 2:5 on the front.

If you are interested in this there are a few "rules"
1) Don't share this file with anyone without written permission from me. It's copyright law.
2) You must give feedback of the format within 15 days of receiving the file or you agree to pay the price on Etsy ($20.00).
{I'm not a hardcase. I know life happens....just send me an email if you don't have the time because something came up. I have 3 kids all under 4 so I KNOW things happen...kids get sick, printer doesn't work, internet goes out, computer doesn't work right. We can extend it another 5 days.}
3) Feedback is in your own format, but I ask for as much detail as possible.
4) If you like it, keep it and refer a friend to my Etsy shop.
5) If you don't like it....just delete the file and let me know why.

To enter in the drawing:
1) Go to http://www.honeyscreative.etsy.com/ to view a preview of the file and read the description. (10 pages are available for viewing, but there are 27 total). If you like the item or my store, please click on "Favorite" or "Heart this shop"
2) Click Follow Me on my blog http://www.honeyscreativehomemaking.blogspot.com/  OR " Like" on Facebook http://www.facebook.com/honeyscreativehomemaking OR "follow" on Twitter http://twitter.com/HoneysCreative OR two or all three.
3) Email honeyscreative@comcast.net  with your the username you hearted with on Etsy (if you did that). These must be included... Your real Name. The username/email address you used on Blogspot or Facebook or Both if you did both..  Now for the hard part: Tell me why you want to win a copy of the Homemaker's Planner (It can be a simple sentence..."I am looking for planner that fits my needs" and YOU MUST STATE THIS PARAGRAPH:

I, ____your name here___, agree to the rules stated in the contest.  This represents my legal electronic signature.

Professional Mom Vs Stay at Home Mom

Why I'm NOT a Stay At Home Mom!

(Definitions will be taken from www.dictionary.com)

STAY:
As a verb with an object:
1) to stop or halt. 2) to hold back, detain, or restrain, as from going further. 3) to suspend or delay (actions, proceedings, etc.).

PROFESSIONAL:
As Noun:
1)a person who belongs to one of the professions, esp. one of the learned professions. 2) a person who is expert at his or her work

As an adjective:
1) of, pertaining to, or connected with a profession

By definintion the term stay shows a holding back or a laziness, which I believe the term was invented to imply.  A mom who is at home 24/7 is NOT someone who "stays", we are professionals.  Motherhood isn't just something that you do, you must LEARN your children, you must LEARN about nutrition, you must LEARN about baby care, schooling, etc. Some of the things that mothers learn come from experience at home with our own mothers.

No one knows our children like we do. Just by looking at our children we know how they feel. We are experts in the area of mothering. We know what is best for our children and we place their needs near the top of our priority list. (Just under God and Husband.)  Motherhood isn't easy, it's hard work!

So calling me a STAY AT HOME MOM is insulting...I'm a PROFESSIONAL MOM.



After talking with my grandmother and many ladies of  the "older generation" I have come to find out that being a "working mom" used to be looked down upon, expect for those in EXTREME circumstances (aka single moms or those facing financial struggles, but the woman was expected to see the kids off to school and be there when they got home).  In fact, it was PREACHED in the churches that a woman's place is in the home. (Thank you Pastor Turpin and Bishop Turpin for not bowing to feminist ideas.) However, with the feminist movement and sexual revolution, the American family dwindled to both parents working and the children being placed in daycare as the norm of society.

My grandmother (in her 60's) told me that when money got tight she worked at the local grocery store for discount on food and a little cash ONLY after her kids were at school, then she left before school let out to meet them at home. When they were little she put the youngest on her back and pulled my mother on a cotton sack behind her while she picked cotton.

Contrary to popular belief I DO NOT believe that a mom being at home was a tradition. I believe that it was God's intention for the mother to be at home, earning income from home is fine, but I believe that it is the man's job to make provision for the family.If the wife helps, that's great! But is she neglecting husband, children, home, or church to do so? (There is a difference between working women and working moms). Mom's need to be home with their children during the early years.

Ok for my atheist friends, ignore the God part all together:  Psychologically speaking children are better off with their mothers at home than with them working, ESPECIALLY during the early years. See http://www.drlaura.com/ and google the subject for more information. I could write a book on the benefits of mothers being at home.

Save $1000's on baby care!

Save $1000's on baby care! By switching to cloth diaper and making your own wipes!

There are more designs out there than the typical folded diaper with rubber pants. Most cloth diapers today look like regular diapers and are fitted.

Disposable Diapers for Malachi (6mths old) ($40.79) &  Halle(27mths old) ($39.81)

Based on ($80.60) from Sam's for 1 package diapers for each child 2 times a month
($80.60*2)= $161.20 per month
*12months= $1934.40 per year

For Malachi alone once I get Halle potty trained will be $978.96 per year * 2.5 years left in potty training = $2447.40
(the average child potty trains around age 3 which is what Matthias did and what Halle is on track for)

Investment for cloth diapers will range from ($100-$800). But you don't have to do it all at once. We are buying 4 diapers at a time for our investment until I have the correct amount I need. AND I will be able to use one type of diapers for both Halle and Malachi!

Savings so far by switch to "greener"-homemade/frugal Wipes:
Sam's Price $16.35 w/tax once a month = $196.20/year
If we have to buy wipes twice a month $392.40/year.
Switching to homemade initial investment: $14.84 in Nov/Dec of 2009.

Since that time I have used 1 roll of Bounty from a HUGE pack we bought at Sam's for the house. It cost was $17.00 for 12 (about $1.42 a roll).

Who will rule your children...Godly People or a Corrupt Government?

The Hand That Rocks The Cradle, Rules The World

We have our beliefs that the Bible tells us to TEACH to our children. But when we abandon our children to the whims of childcare outside of our beliefes we are giving our children over to the guidance of others. If the school system is ran by the government, then we are allowing the governement to train our children in their beliefs. In the public school system, they have changed history books to become politically correct. We are leaving sex education to the schools. Their education says it's ok to have sex as long as you use protection. They receive 40 hours a week of anti-religious instruction, but only 4-8 hours a week of Godly instruction while at church, maybe more at home but they receive minimal compared to the unGodly instruction they receive elsewhere.

Our daughters are taught that being a mother and homemaker is WORTHLESS, when it the ACTUAL call God placed upon the woman. Women that don't bring home a paycheck is a waste of life, is another lie that is fed to them. (I'm not against education and working, but when a woman becomes a wife her husband and her home, should be her priority. If the house is a mess and husband neglected while she is working, then she is NOT following the Godly priorities that God gave her.)

The girls are taught by "fashion" that looking like a whore with every curve showing and breast hanging out, that they have the "freedom" and "right" to show it off without any reprocusions. Boys are told "Don't touch, don't think about me, don't react." HELLO!!! Boys/men are visual creatures, they can't help but notice. Of course they NEVER have the right to touch, but IF IT'S NOT FOR SALE COVER IT UP!

Boys are taught that masculinity is WRONG and that they should be more LIKE GIRLS. They should allow the women to pursue their dreams and shouldn't expect them to raise the children, that's what daycare is for.  They are also taught that women are the same as men, just a few different parts.  That's like saying a Ferrari is like a Datsun, just a few different parts.

Our children are now being told that sexual orientation doesn't matter. You can be gay as long as you are happy. The doctrine of SELF is being taught everywhere. "It's all about me" is the way they are being taught. "The only sacrifice that is worth anyhting is the sacrifice that gets you things."

We are SACRIFICING our children to public ran schools because they are "free" and to daycares. The price we pay for free child care is our own children. Look at those who run the government and that will tell you what is happening. When you have socialist, marxist, and liberals in office-you are giving your children to them FREELY.

When The hand that rocks the cradle is too busy, someone else will rule your family.