Friday, March 26, 2010

Professional Mom Vs Stay at Home Mom

Why I'm NOT a Stay At Home Mom!

(Definitions will be taken from

As a verb with an object:
1) to stop or halt. 2) to hold back, detain, or restrain, as from going further. 3) to suspend or delay (actions, proceedings, etc.).

As Noun:
1)a person who belongs to one of the professions, esp. one of the learned professions. 2) a person who is expert at his or her work

As an adjective:
1) of, pertaining to, or connected with a profession

By definintion the term stay shows a holding back or a laziness, which I believe the term was invented to imply.  A mom who is at home 24/7 is NOT someone who "stays", we are professionals.  Motherhood isn't just something that you do, you must LEARN your children, you must LEARN about nutrition, you must LEARN about baby care, schooling, etc. Some of the things that mothers learn come from experience at home with our own mothers.

No one knows our children like we do. Just by looking at our children we know how they feel. We are experts in the area of mothering. We know what is best for our children and we place their needs near the top of our priority list. (Just under God and Husband.)  Motherhood isn't easy, it's hard work!

So calling me a STAY AT HOME MOM is insulting...I'm a PROFESSIONAL MOM.

After talking with my grandmother and many ladies of  the "older generation" I have come to find out that being a "working mom" used to be looked down upon, expect for those in EXTREME circumstances (aka single moms or those facing financial struggles, but the woman was expected to see the kids off to school and be there when they got home).  In fact, it was PREACHED in the churches that a woman's place is in the home. (Thank you Pastor Turpin and Bishop Turpin for not bowing to feminist ideas.) However, with the feminist movement and sexual revolution, the American family dwindled to both parents working and the children being placed in daycare as the norm of society.

My grandmother (in her 60's) told me that when money got tight she worked at the local grocery store for discount on food and a little cash ONLY after her kids were at school, then she left before school let out to meet them at home. When they were little she put the youngest on her back and pulled my mother on a cotton sack behind her while she picked cotton.

Contrary to popular belief I DO NOT believe that a mom being at home was a tradition. I believe that it was God's intention for the mother to be at home, earning income from home is fine, but I believe that it is the man's job to make provision for the family.If the wife helps, that's great! But is she neglecting husband, children, home, or church to do so? (There is a difference between working women and working moms). Mom's need to be home with their children during the early years.

Ok for my atheist friends, ignore the God part all together:  Psychologically speaking children are better off with their mothers at home than with them working, ESPECIALLY during the early years. See and google the subject for more information. I could write a book on the benefits of mothers being at home.

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